The hashtag #RelationshipGoals has been trending on social media for a while now, and no matter how cute the ‘goal’ is, I always find myself rolling my eyes at it. I figured that I roll my eyes at this because there are too many late teens, and early 20 something’s focusing on their ‘relationship goals. What about your damn career goals?! It’s imperative that this age group realises just how important it is to have career goals. Set your future up. Now I’m not saying don’t be in relationships, because it’s also important to date frequently and get to know yourself while doing so. What I’m saying is don’t let boys, or girls get in the way of your dreams.
The mistake my age group is making is missing opportunities, or not making opportunities for themselves because they’re too busy waiting for their partner, or following/chasing them. At the age of 21, if I were to get an opportunity for my dream job across the country, I’m packing up my bags and making moves; and I would hope my partner would do the same for himself. My point is, at this age (late teens to early 20 something’s) we should be putting more efforts towards our futures, our careers, and not get caught in the cross fires of butterflies.
Stop focusing on wanting to move in together, and instead put all that energy towards making the right moves for yourself as an individual. As I mentioned before, I’m not saying don’t date, or take your relationships seriously. What I’m saying is make sure you take yourself, and your own future seriously first. Look at Jay Z and Beyoncé! They’ve been together for 10+ years; she didn’t end the relationship, but she did however put her career first to be where she is today – and can now enjoy every single part of her relationship thoroughly, and comfortably. Dream then team folks, dream then team.
Continuing my reference to Jay & Bey, here are his lyrics to ‘Lost one’ as he talks about her putting her career before him.
But she loves her work more than she does me – And honestly, at twenty-three – I would probably love my work more than I did she – So we, ain’t we – It’s me, and her – ‘Cause what she prefers over me, is work – And that’s, where we, differ – So I have to give her – Free, time, even if it hurts
Keep it cute, Keep it classy!💋